The Helper

the other month, we were asked to answer several questions, for us to indicate which is the closest quality of us. honestly, it was hard coz somehow the qualities are somewhat the same. then after answering it, the result was given. it was an enneagram kind of test and i was said to be described as The Helper. and the description of The Helper is really right for me. well, some are not, but mostly are soooo true. here's the description and i'll not say what's really me and what's not. i give you the permission to judge me on what's really my personality. hehehe.

The Helper - the caring, interpersonal type: generous, demonstrative, people-pleasing and possessive

Basic fear: of being unwanted, unworthy of being loved
Basic desire: to feel loved

Profile Summary:
Healthy: empathetic, compasionate, feeling for others. Caring and concerned about their needs. Thoughtful, warm-hearted, forgiving and sincere. Encouraging and appreciative, able to see the good in others. Service is important, but takes care of self too: they are nurturing, generous, and giving - a truly loving person. At their Best: Become deeply unselfish, humble, and altruistic: giving unconditional love to self and others. Feel it is a privilege to be in the loves of others.

Average: Want to be closer to others, so start "people pleasing", becoming overly friendly, emotionally demonstrative, and full of "good intentions" about everything. Give seductive attention: approval, "strokes," flattery. Love their supreme value, and they talk about it constantly. Become overly intimate and intrusive: they need to be needed, so they hover, meddle, and control in the name of love. Want others to depend on them. give, but expect a return: send double messages. Enveloping and possessive: the codependent, self-sacrificial person who cannot do enough for others—wearing themselves out for everyone, creating needs for themselves to fulfill. Increasingly self-important and self-satisfied, feel they are indispensable, although they overrate their efforts in others' behalf. Hypochondria, becoming a "martyr" for others. Overbearing, patronizing, presumptuous.

Unhealthy: Can be manipulative and self-serving, instilling guilt by telling others how much they owe them and make them suffer. Abuse food and medication to "stuff feelings" and get sympathy. Undermine people, making belittling, disparaging remarks. Extremely self-deceptive about their motives and how aggressive and/or selfish their behavior is. Domineering and coercive: feel entitled to get anything they want from others: the repayment of old debts, money, sexual favors. Able to excuse and rationalize what they do since they feel abused and victimized by others and are bitterly resentful and angry. Somatization of their aggressions result in chronic health problems as they vindicate themselves by "falling apart" and burdening others. Generally corresponds to the Histrionic Personality Disorder and Factitious Disorder.

Key Motivations: Want to be loved, to express their feelings for others, to be needed and appreciated, to get others to respond to them, to vindicate their claims about themselves.

wellm there you go. sorry if it's a long-read. but if you want to know me more, you have to read this. coz 90% of it is true. i just won't say what. if you know me, you'll know what are the traits that are in me. hehehe. here's the task na lang.. write the line that describes me most. hahaha. nagbigay pa ng task. hehe.