Sunday, July 01, 2007

The Helper

the other month, we were asked to answer several questions, for us to indicate which is the closest quality of us. honestly, it was hard coz somehow the qualities are somewhat the same. then after answering it, the result was given. it was an enneagram kind of test and i was said to be described as The Helper. and the description of The Helper is really right for me. well, some are not, but mostly are soooo true. here's the description and i'll not say what's really me and what's not. i give you the permission to judge me on what's really my personality. hehehe.

The Helper - the caring, interpersonal type: generous, demonstrative, people-pleasing and possessive

Basic fear: of being unwanted, unworthy of being loved
Basic desire: to feel loved

Profile Summary:
Healthy: empathetic, compasionate, feeling for others. Caring and concerned about their needs. Thoughtful, warm-hearted, forgiving and sincere. Encouraging and appreciative, able to see the good in others. Service is important, but takes care of self too: they are nurturing, generous, and giving - a truly loving person. At their Best: Become deeply unselfish, humble, and altruistic: giving unconditional love to self and others. Feel it is a privilege to be in the loves of others.

Average: Want to be closer to others, so start "people pleasing", becoming overly friendly, emotionally demonstrative, and full of "good intentions" about everything. Give seductive attention: approval, "strokes," flattery. Love their supreme value, and they talk about it constantly. Become overly intimate and intrusive: they need to be needed, so they hover, meddle, and control in the name of love. Want others to depend on them. give, but expect a return: send double messages. Enveloping and possessive: the codependent, self-sacrificial person who cannot do enough for others—wearing themselves out for everyone, creating needs for themselves to fulfill. Increasingly self-important and self-satisfied, feel they are indispensable, although they overrate their efforts in others' behalf. Hypochondria, becoming a "martyr" for others. Overbearing, patronizing, presumptuous.

Unhealthy: Can be manipulative and self-serving, instilling guilt by telling others how much they owe them and make them suffer. Abuse food and medication to "stuff feelings" and get sympathy. Undermine people, making belittling, disparaging remarks. Extremely self-deceptive about their motives and how aggressive and/or selfish their behavior is. Domineering and coercive: feel entitled to get anything they want from others: the repayment of old debts, money, sexual favors. Able to excuse and rationalize what they do since they feel abused and victimized by others and are bitterly resentful and angry. Somatization of their aggressions result in chronic health problems as they vindicate themselves by "falling apart" and burdening others. Generally corresponds to the Histrionic Personality Disorder and Factitious Disorder.

Key Motivations: Want to be loved, to express their feelings for others, to be needed and appreciated, to get others to respond to them, to vindicate their claims about themselves.

wellm there you go. sorry if it's a long-read. but if you want to know me more, you have to read this. coz 90% of it is true. i just won't say what. if you know me, you'll know what are the traits that are in me. hehehe. here's the task na lang.. write the line that describes me most. hahaha. nagbigay pa ng task. hehe.


kyels said...

I shall do it then; since you said it's quite true.


Anyway, I'm sure you are well loved Ate!

Let me give you one big hugs ... *BIG HUGGIE*

vina said...

uuuuuy....feeling ko ganyan din ako! :P

wala kang copy nung test?

vina said...

or baka nine ako!

peacemaker, defender, devil's advocate! bwahaha...

Abaniko said...

If you're "The Helper", I think I'll be "The Needy." Ayan, compatible tayo. Haha.

JV said...

Tin-tin! Long time no blog ako!!! Miss ko na kayo! Eto na pala yung bago kong blog, dinelete ko na yung isa.

Wahhhh!!! gusto ko sana magtest rin nun! Sana meron online!

Take care and God speed!

tin-tin said...

thank you kyels! :)

vina: devil's advocate ka?!?! hahaha. hanap ako sa google kung meron. sa paper kse pinasagutan yan saken :)

tin-tin said...

abaniko: hahaha! shucks! kinikilig ako! hahahaha ;p

jv: nabuhay ka!! musta na? hanap ako ng online test para sa inyo :)

tin-tin said...

here's a link. this is not the actual test that i've taken. pero feeling ko pwede na din yan. hehehe.

but this is where i copied the :)

Anonymous said...

Ayush. I have got to know you somehow.

Ah eh ako nga pala si Jake. :D

carey said...

For me, this line best describes you:
"Service is important, but takes care of self too: they are nurturing, generous, and giving - a truly loving person."
I know you are serving the Lord and others thru your involvement in your community.
I like taking personality tests too. The results, though they may not be that 100% accurate, actually help us realize some traits that we may not be aware of.

carey said...

by the way, you've been tagged! :) check it out here.

RennyBA said...

To me you are a wonderful blog friend and a caring, sincere, honest and thoughtful person - period:-)

Btw: Thanks for your compliment on my new blog home and also for the tip of the typo (it was LoL - thanks for Charing :-)

The King said...

hindi naman sa pagbubuhat ng bangko, pero Helper din yata ako.. :) Mabuhay tayong mga Helper.. Haha! In Tagalog.. Katulong.. :D

vina said...

i tried the test and tama nga ako!

i'm both helper (no. 2) and peacemaker (no. 9)!

JV said...

Yay! Thank you sa link ng enneagram!

Motivator at Generalist ako!