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Sunday, September 02, 2007

Moving On is Hard to Do

some friends and i were talking and the topic became breaking-up. and here's what we realize why it is hard to move on...


when you are still together, of course there are happy moments. but of course there are sad and bad moments. especially right before the break-up. and when you break-up... all you could think of are the happy moments. this is the perfect time for you to think about all the bad memories. but all you could think of are the good ones. so now, you are having a hard time to move on. now, all you do is cry asking yourself why and what happened coz everything is perfect. but you don't realize it's not. there are also times it's not. that it's bad. but you forget about it. you forget all the hurts you've experienced.

i'm going to be mean. but why is it that the things we have to remember in the moving on stage are the good memories? can't it be the bad ones so that we'll have an easier time to move on? wala lang...


17 comments:

Bryan Anthony the First said...

cherish them both, as they will serve as your yardstick on what relationship/s you'll get yourself into the next time.

that, and a lot of crying (my personal favorite!)...

"move on" in your own time, in your own way. not how your ate dealt with it, or how your bestbud coped with it.

we live and learn sabi nga.

exskindiver said...

...and then ever wonder why during your "moving on" stage, every song applies to you?
thanks for the visit.

kyels said...

Good or bad memories, we all should cherish them both because the man/woman that comes into our lives mean something. Albeit he/she may have left one, the memories stay and it may hurt but if one is tough he/she would be able to move on.

Moving on isn't hard ( easier said than done ) but as long as you have optimism in yourself, it'll be easy to go through life without your ex. That is what I think.

Also, if you love someone deeply, you ought to let him/her go, if they no longer have feelings anymore. Very painful but acceptance have to be executed.

Daniel Ted said...

If you remember some then learn to forget some. keep it balanced.

Rey said...

does women think like that upon break up? I thought you like to think of the bad things so you'd convince yourself he's not that special anyway and you can move on instead?

things like...
1) he farts during romantic dinners--while you're both eating.
2) He picks his nose while you're both wishpering sweet nothings.
3) He sleeps and snores during movie dates-- especially on the romantic themed flicks!

Andami pang dahilan dyan... hehe.

kingofchocolates said...

We find it hard to move on, kasi sometimes, deep inside, ayaw natin, hehe. We'd rather go back to the good ol'times than move one. Diba? Hehe!

vernaloo said...

Hi Tin :)

I went through a lot of stages after I broke up with my ex but thinking of the good times was not in the list. Thinking of the bad times wasn't either. I mean we had both but the good times are actually dominant than the bad times. What made "moving on" or moving forward possible was the thought that even if we'll stay together, we still won't be happy because of a lot of stuff. When it's over, you know it's over. Sad but that's how it is...:)

Sidney said...

In the arithmetic of love, one plus one equals everything, and two minus one equals nothing.
-Mignon McLaughlin-

Toe said...

Both good and bad memories hurt during break-ups. Moving on is really hard to do.

bananas said...

like in any other relationships, in the end, what matters are the moments. not even that paper called marraige certificate can make an estrange wife's heart bleed but the moments that she shared with her husband, and the children.


moments...just moments.

CM said...

its really up to your "willingness" to move on. Some said that you could not always erase the feeling but you could overcome it.

RennyBA said...

I do agree with you, but I think it is a kind of survival mechanism. In the long run (yea I know it's hard to see it that way on short terms) it's good that we remember the good thing - don't you think?

Richard said...

I think there are several reasons (not in any particular order). First, you lose a label (some people strongly define themselves by the relationships they have, some cultures negatively define people who have no relationship). Next, you lose an investment of yourself. How can you invest emotional energy in someone and then simply let is go? (That is why I think it is better to have just one relationship.) Next, You lose someone caring strongly for you (whether positively or negatively, it doesn't matter - hate / love is preferable to many instead of being alone). Also, breaking up, moves people out of their comfort zone, it means change and most people don't like change.

zingtrial said...

HI! :) If someone hurts you,betrays you or break your heart,

forgive them because they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart. put it down to experience
Wishing you well my friend

MOGLI said...

i think it really depends on which person is at the receiving end of the break up. for sure, the one who got dumped would be the one to reminisce more about their happy moments together while the one who initiated the break up would certainly not feel sorry at all.

BW said...

Very good question why we have to remember the good times instead of the bad.. My answer would be - based on experience hehe :) - it is easy to move on when you don't have a heavy heart or anger towards the person. In the end, after time has healed the wounds, the memories would be just another experience and might in fact fade away. Cherishing the good memories can be therapeutic in fact :)

Tani said...

hahaha! ganyan ata talaga mga babae. we rememer the good times. minsan yun iba nanghihinayang kaya hirap mag-move on. at least until the next great guy comes along. :)