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Monday, August 14, 2006

unpretty

i see myself as beautiful. but when others (especially specific persons) keep on saying negative things about you, then somehow, you start to believe otherwise. it might be a joke or they're just teasing you, but if these same people keep on repeating it, and they never say anything positive to you. they never compliment you but just see faults, then i guess i can take only much. i can be patient, but my patience has its own limitations.

am i being too sensitive? maybe. but maybe the reason for this is because, just for once.. can i be appreciated by these same people?

52 comments:

cruise said...

actually totoo na talagang makaka-apekto sa atin yung mga sinasabi nila, pero siguro kaya rin nating i practice na hwag mag-apekto sa mga comments nila, mas kilala mo sarili mo keysa sa kanila.

although minsan kung talagang friend mo yung tao na nagsasabi ng totoo, eh balance din kasi baka makatulong sila sa feedback nila.

nga pala yung tanong mo tungkol sa mt apo, hindi ako yung nasa picture, di ba ako yung kumukuha ng mga pictures,. hehehe. sa bagay pwede naman timer, pero ang tayu nung para takbuhin ko in 10 secs, hehehe

Rey said...

Beauty, as a very well known quote tells us-- is an experienc--nothing else. It is not a fixed pattern or an arrangement of features. It is something felt, a glow or a communicated sense of fineness. What ails us is that our sense of beauty is so bruised and blunted, we miss all the best.
Me, for example, like saying you're pretty not because i want to enflate your ego but because i'm experiencing it while looking. Sadly, some people don't look it this way, especially if they already see you with judgment within them.
Just remember this:
It's beauty that captures the attention, but it's personality which captures the heart.

So be happy. Nothing breaks you today.

tin-tin said...

cruise: pero kung laging faults mo o kamalian mo ang napapansin ng tao (parehas na tao ha), diba nakakapikon na. dun ka maapektuhan.

tungkol naman sa sagot mo. malay ko ba kung yun lang ang hindi mo kinuhaan. nasa maynila ka na ulit? o nasa ibang lupalop ng pilipinas nanaman? :)

tin-tin said...

rey: thank you so much rey. don't worry, i'm not egoistic coz of your comments. hehe. maybe they think i'm perfect that's why they're really trying to look for my faults. hahaha. yun na! :)

jef said...

You cannot please everybody, but you can use your palm to slap them LOL!

You know what, make it sure that your outside their perimeters. Kasi, ang mga NEGA na tao, parang may sariling gravitational field. They suck and spit those pipol that are far better than them

You go Gurl!

racky said...

huwag mong sukatin ang sarili mo sa sinasabi ng ibang tao! ;)

charles ravndal said...

yeah I agree to what ate neng just said. People who say negative things against you are just insecure.

melai said...

kung mayroon mang unpretty ...AKO YUN hindi ikaw ..kaya wag kang magpapaniwala sa ibang tao ...

tin-tin said...

jef: so that's the purpose of my palm. hehehe ;p

neneng: pilit ko man di sukatin ang sarili ko sa sinasabi ng iba, di ko mapigilan

tin-tin said...

charles: thanks charles :)

melai: ano ka ba?!?!?! hindi ka kaya unpretty! sabagay, pwede.. you're not pretty, you're just gorgeous :)

melai said...

nyahahaha!!
gusto ko ya
gorgeous :)

Iskoo said...

others may she us beautiful, and others may not. well you look beautiful on your profile, hehe

snglguy said...

Bakeeet? Magaganda ba sila?

Arrgh, I'm beginning to sound like Neneng, LOL! :-D

Cheer up Tin, and don't take to heart what other say about your looks. I've been called a lot of things but I just let it slide.

Just look at Mother Theresa, isn't she the most beautiful woman in the world?

Sidney said...

Don't bother, they are probably jealous people!

Garnet Girl said...

Hi! Basta someone with a beautiful heart is always a beautiful person. :)

I was also insulted by someone I do not even know na para bang she's so perfect. Actually di ko alam kung anong mukha meron siya. Nakita lang naman niya ang pics ko sa blog. At kung anu-anong "constructive criticism" ang sinasabi. Whatever.

So wag mo na silang pansinin. It's always the personality that counts. I think you have a beautiful heart lalo na yung pagconsider mo na paupuin ang mga preggy women. :)

tin-tin said...

melai: so from now on, you're miss gorgeous :)

piolo: wow! thank you :)

snglguy: yung isa maganda. yup, mothere theresa is the kost beautiful woman i saw. and i hope i can have a heart as beautiful as hers :)

tin-tin said...

sidney: i don't know. but it's really hard not to be bothered.

garnet girl: i'm reading your blog nga. hehe. grabe nga yun! nyway, ang babaw na basis na mabait ako coz magpapaupo ako ng preggy. hehe. but thanks :)

duke said...

beauty is skin deep.

Cheer up! :)

jase said...

hi tin-tin, tama ka. we need positive feedbacks from people we love or are important to us. Affirmation and confirmation of our worth as human beings - i have this friend who keep on making jokes out of my laughable character and then all of a sudden i got sick of it and just did not want to talk to this guy anymore. we don't need people who do not appreciate and see our true selves, diba?

tin-tin said...

duke: thanks duke :)

jase: you got it!!!! it's okay once in a while but daily jokes? i don't think i can last..

BW said...

Cheer up girl. Need to get used to tactless people. I'd take you to Starbucks for coffee.

mai said...

they might just be drowning with insecurities dear.

don't mind them..just sing and internalize christina's song.."I am beautiful no matter what they song coz words can't bring me down..." uy kinanta nga niya. :)

Ann said...

You know yourself more than anyone. Ikaw makakaalam kung may halong concern yung comments syo or purely insults.

Tama sila, you can't please everybody, meron at meron talagang mga kontrabida.

tin-tin said...

bw: i'll cheer up when i already have starbucks. hehehe ;p

mai: hahaha. kinanta ko nga! bawal ba? hehehe ;p

ann: that's the problem with me.. i always want to please everybody :(

RennyBA said...

Thouse comments often comes from people with less selfasteam and with a negative attitude to themsel and then to otheres. I know it is difficalt not to take notice, but they ar not worth your attention. Beside, beauty comes from the inside too and you have a lot of it Tin-tin!

tin-tin said...

wow! thanks renny! :)

vina said...

we don't always have to please everybody, Tin, inasmuch as we don't always have to go around seeking appreciation from other people.

live your life the way you want it - beautifully, rightfully. let them live theirs.

Garnet Girl said...

I still think mabait ka pag nagpapaupo ka ng mga preggy. Kasi you're not being selfish. tsaka ibang guys nga di ginagawa yun, eh girl ka pa! :)

anyway, don't even try to please everybody. there's a saying nga na 'if you want to fail, try to please everybody' naku wag na! not worth it. :)

tin-tin said...

vina: i hope i can do it not trying to think of pleasing others but just doing what is right. you're Back!!! :)

garnet girl: naku! i'll surely fail. huhuhu. about sa pagupo sa preggy, kaya nga ginagawa ko yun, kse di ginagawa ng guys. hehe ;p

melai said...

ei younger ms gorgeous :)

Brat said...

I feel the same way most of the times...but I've learned...u know what I did? I gave back the tease! LOL..that's why I am so maldita now!!!

Brat said...

BTW, yes i do blog makeovers...wanna dress your blog for a change?

tin-tin said...

melai: yes older miss gorgeous :)

maldita: hahaha. so that's the birth of miss maldita. thanks for the offer, but charles promised to do it for me. hehe :)

tin-tin said...

cruise=piolo? si cruise tagalog.. while piolo speaks in english. ganun ba yon?

cruise said...

natawa naman ako! at least napansin mo, galing...

Iskoo said...

what more can i say... you have brains as well hahaha. see you around, may be not in blogging world but somewhere maybe our path may cross again. God bless!

ralphT said...

blogger ka ba since dati pa? parang sa blogdrive ata kita nabibisita... o talagang sabog lang tlg ako ngaun? haha

everything's beautiful naman. life, nature, you. its just that, different people see things in different ways. you may be beautiful to one person, and not-so-beautiful to the other.... same shit. pero different lang ang pananaw nila sa 'kagandahan'... do i make sense? haha. pasenxa. sabog. pinilit lang magkommento... hehe

Toe said...

Tin, so many people love you! Can't you see in your blog? :) And it also seems that your sister and brother love you! You're one lucky gal!

Those who say negative things, wag mong papatulan ha... you're way beyond that.

Richard said...

Relationships involve a lot of different types of interactions. However, if what the people around you are saying is wearing you down or not helping to build your self esteem then you need to let them know that they should stop.

If that doesn't work, then you need to consider changing your environment.

Some people are very tactless and keep harping on the same dumb comment / joke / insult over and over and over again until all you want to do is punch them in the mouth and scream at them to shut up. sigh. But civilized people don't do this.

Like some one once said, if you want to soar with eagles, then don't hang around with chickens.

In some cultures irony (saying the opposite of what is true) is common - British humour is often based on that. Of course, there are always those who will are really mean and use the guise of "I was just joking" to deliver their meanness.

Stand up for yourself and let people know that you don't like the comments they are saying. If you are not used to doing that, then it will be hard, but trust me it is better to put an end to it as soon as possible rather than being worn down little by little each day. Remember that a drop of water may not be very powerful compared to stone, but that drop of water, falling everyday will eventually wear away the stone.

vic said...

try the art of ignoring them. if they are friends, they'll realized you don't approve they way they do things; if they can't get it, who needs friends like them..

Tani said...

surround yourself with beautiful people. by that, i mean beautiful inside and out. dizz those pangets.

tin-tin said...

cruise/piolo: smart lang tlga ako. hahaha. what do you mean we'll not meet anymore in the blogging world????

ralpht: sabog ka nga ata talaga. baka sa comments mo ako nakita

toe: wow! thanks toe! ayoko na tlga patulan pero pag sumbora na...

tin-tin said...

richard: i hate confrontations. i just cry. but i guess people get it from there coz they stopped teasing me. heheeh. somtimes however you would like to change your environment, you can't :)

vic: thanks vic. what i'm trying to learn is the art of war. hehe ;p

tani: di mo kse kaagad nalalaman kung beautiful people sila :)

vina said...

psssst! ano ba??? para ka na rin ako, haha!

tin-tin said...

nahawa kse ako sayo! hahaha. musta ka na? okay ka na?

Estupidormitorian Neil said...

Nakaka-relate ako to you, ate tin-tin...

I don't know what I will look like when I burst. That would be my very first time...

Abaniko said...

I believe that you gravitate towards your dominant thoughts. So, think happy thoughts always. And smile. :)

tin-tin said...

neil: pag napuno ka na, mahirap noh? :)

abaniko: happy happy happy thoughts.. think about things you'd like to do :)

marchanazie said...

nice thoughts out here. beauty comes from the heart. so don't mind other persons negative comments if you knew you're beautiful from within. k! cheer up!

Anonymous said...

theres nothing wrong with criticisms. just learn how to take them gracefully. you can actually use them to your advantage like improving yourself etc.

Lyka Bergen said...

We are all beautiful.... society (and hollywood) ruined it!

Maganda ka 'day at mabuhay ka!

rex said...

hmm.. do these people matter? i mean, does their opinion matter to you? hehe, wala lang.. if it doesnt then dont mind them! if it does, well, sabihin na lang natin na mas nag-mamatter ang tinging mo sa sarili mo, hehe..