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Tuesday, August 08, 2006

forgiveness

how can you say that you've truly forgiven a person?

if you compare my relationship with my dad now and last year or two years ago, it's totally different. it's like i made a big change. i now talk to him more often. i can kid around him. i can make some requests from him. before, if i need something, i'll not ask from him. i would find another way to get it without getting any help from him.

last year in my sharing, i said that i'll forgive him. i have been sharing my life story thru Youth Life in the Spirit Seminars and Singles Encounter, but i guess it's only now that i can say i have forgiven him. but to be really honest, i don't know if i did. or i'm just putting everything behind. i hope i have forgiven him. and i just hope he would not abuse my forgiveness.

26 comments:

carey said...

that's a difficult question, i guess you're the only one who can really say if you have forgiven your dad or not... and you're so honest for sharing this. :)
just give yourself time. well, at least the decision to forgive is a good start, then everything will just fall into place.
maybe you're hesitant to forgive him a hundred percent 'cause you're afraid to be hurt again? sigh... you got me into deep thinking with this post.

Duke said...

forgiveness is a gift you give to the person and yourself.

yuri said...

easy to say but really hard to forgive. i know girl trust me. i have the same ish with my dad. thanks for visiting me always tin! flipis 4ever ha! will do the meme soon
1 luv yah mwah!

tin-tin said...

carey: that's true. i'm afraid that he'll do the same. that is my number one reason. coz he might think that he'll always be forgiven

duke: true! but it's hard to give. even to yourself :)

yuri!!!! you're back! welcome back. yes, really hard to forgive. i'll just pray for you and your dad :)

jase said...

It's when you see the person and there's no more pain in your heart..that's when you have truly forgiven. When you have moved on.

Hope that you can find in your heart to forgive and let go...

tin-tin said...

then i guess i've not truly fogriven him. i should have the humility also... thanks jase :)

snglguy said...

I'm at a loss here, I don't know the whole story...

Anyways, whatever it is, do forgive him.

RennyBA said...

It's hard to comment as we don't know the whole story (and we don't need to know of course!), but I do agree with Duke: forgiveness is a mutual gift. In difficult situations in life, I always say to myself: “It works if you work it, so work it, your work it”. If that gives you comfort, your welcome!

Estupidormitorian Neil said...

To forgive is to forget...

If you think you don't care about what he has done before while you are in his company, I guess you have forgotten.

Try to assess... but at least there's a big improvement.

Congratulations to you and your father.

Rey said...

Sincere forgiveness isn't colored with expectations that the other person apologize or change. Don't worry whether or not they finally understand you. Love them and release them. Life feeds back truth to people in its own way and time.

I don't want to try and say "I understand" what you're going thru now because I don't knew the whole story. I can only wish you better judgement and peace of mind and hope that you can, in your own time, reflect what's best for you.

Take care, ok?

tin-tin said...

snglguy: i hope forgiveness is an easy thing to do, that if you say you forgive him, he's already forgiven :)

renny: thanks renny! i guess i just really have to work it out :)

tin-tin said...

neil: then i guess i have not forgiven him yet. thanks, yes it's an improvement :)

rey: thank you. i'm loss for words. hehehe ;p

aiRah said...

hi there..

i've finally done the 8 tasks tag about you (your comment, remember).. ;p

anyway, you can view it in the comments area of my blog entry: "Pque City is Such a Small Place"..

have a nice day! *hugs*

cheers,
aiRah

tin-tin said...

thanks airah! will visit it now :)

Dennis said...

nice blog here..i enjoy reading your entries...you're a good writer :)

tin-tin said...

wha...what???

ummm... thanks...

are you and rey related? :)

Dennis said...

hey tin..related kami ni Rey..sa apelyido..hehe..kiding aside may isang bagay na pareho naming hilig..komiks!

tin-tin said...

you're not relatives or anything? i thought you're brothers. hehehe :)

Sidney said...

Well I had a wonderful relationship with my father and I have an even better relationship with my son...
And as in every relationship you have to work on it, cherish it and keep it alive.
Not always easy but well worth the effort.

tin-tin said...

that's nice sidney. i just hope i'll have a great relationship with my children also :)

BW said...

However we may look at it, forgiveness is never easy. But here's the challenge - we beg God to forgive us, but then we can't forgive our neighbor, what does it make of us?

tin-tin said...

true! that line was said to me in two different occassions when i went to confession :)

BW said...

God bless you Tin-tin,

Father BW

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tin-tin said...

hahaha. thanks father bw :)

rex said...

haay, ilang beses ko na sinabi sa mga blogs na binibisita ko to, "Not forgiving is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.."
ewan ko lang kung applicable sa inyo ng dad mo ito, hehe..

it's hard to forgive, very true. but since im sensing that you are a faithful (note, hindi religious) person, i think you're the type who has enough sense of what is right to be able to forgive even the worst transgression. diba? =p

based on my experience, i have realized that forgetting is the hard part. when you decide to forgive, that's it. but it's the forgetting that completely heals the wound..

nyaks, napaka-profound ko yata! parang hindi totoo, hehe..