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Sunday, December 03, 2006

first impression never lasts

Last week, I went out with some of my officemates. And there, I learned that before, when I was still new in our office, they don’t like me. but now they love me. Ha! Hehehe. and to think that it was the time I was still a little quiet in the office and really goody-goody. I think that’s the time I was prim and proper. Of course! Coz I was trying to make a good impression. And still they didn’t like me. but after some months, years, they learned to like me. not only like.. but also to love me.

When I was also an applicant in econsoc, my organization in college, part of the initiation was the human auction. The procedure is that the members would bid for an applicant and whoever bids the highest would have I think 5 hours time of the applicant where he can ask the applicant to clean his house, do his term paper or whatever. In other words, the applicant will be the member’s maid. Anyway, when we were auctioned, i was the lowest priced applicant. Pathetic noh? Hehe. Anyway, I know naman before that the members, except for my blocmates, did not like me. that if ever I’ll give up in the initiation, they wouldn’t mind. But when I became a member, I think they are glad that I’m part of the organization. That they already see me as an asset to the org.

What I just can’t understand is what people see in me first. Some thinks that I am mataray. Others, I don’t know. It’s just majority don’t like me the first time they see me. and I did nothing wrong to them yet they hate my guts. I just really can’t understand it. I’m just quiet in the corner, and still people think that I’m mataray. it’s just that I don’t know what to do to make a good first impression.

How about you? Do you have any problems with first impression? What is generally the first impression of others of you?

60 comments:

Anonymous said...

I don't believe that first impression is last. Minsan talaga lang may mga first encounter na hindi maganda. Mas nakikilala mo nga ang isang tao sa katagalan.

Kaya ka nila nagugustuhan sa katagalan ay dun lumalabas yung totoong ikaw.

tin-tin said...

ann: oo nga. mas gusto nila yung magulong ako. hehehe

ade said...

People mistake me for a good guy at first, but when they get to know me better, they get scared of me. :(


Ask my GF. :(

mei said...

siguro kasi in some ways people feel threatened pag tahimik ang isang tao dahil di nila alam kung anong iniisip mo, nararamdaman, etc. they can't predict your moves kaya hindi rin nila maco-control how they would react to you. kaya siguro may ganong feeling. hehe.

tin-tin said...

ade: they get scared at you?? how come? your gf is scared of you????

mei: hmmm... siguro nga ganun...

ghee said...

suplada ka pala?haha,first impression nila?siguro nga dahil quiet ka,akala nila namimili ka lang ng kausap mo.

noon,akala nila,mayabang ako,kasi di rin ako palakibo at kung maglakad ako ay taas noo..up to now,kapag hindi ko kinausap,eh masyado na kong talkative ngayon,hehe,kaya i think ok lang..

chaka di importante yung first,mas matibay yung habang tumatagal :)

Anonymous said...

hi tin-tin here I am here again :)
2nd time here

hmm normally people will think I am a Funny guy and Cheerful... yep what to do been in the sales line for long always know how to cover myself even that is the day I broke up with my love one.

so don't trust 1st impression, I rather to take some time to know the person... that is the fun part of getting to know people right??

almost forgot Queerchef says hi

manilenya said...

gayahin ko si ade

people mistake me as a good girl
but after few meetings they get scared of me ....specially when they see my face without the mask
lol!!ibig sabihin more scary pa :)

ralphT said...

it doesnt 'last'.. but it matters... hehe ;)

tin-tin said...

ghee: aba! mas suplada ka pala sa akin kse taas noo ka pa. hehehe

vince: what?! you're back in the comment whore? oh no! i might lose to you. hehehe. but isn't it hard to wear a mask all the time?

manilenya: ganun? alam ko na! natatakot sila kse masyado kang maganda. talbog byuti nila! hehehe

tin-tin said...

ralph: so true! it really matters. when i learned about it, sobrang affected ako ha. hehehe

Sidney said...

It is better that way than the other way around. People who like you at first sight and then start to hate you.
Anyway, you can't judge a book by its cover.

racky said...

hmmm, pareho tayo (ugaling-Scorpion kaya? ;)

pero noong naging kaibigan ko mga "maton" ... i mean guys, naging kenkoy ako (mejo lang naman), nahawaang mang-goodtime kaya ngayon minsan ...ooopppsss, mga jokes ko pala di tanggap ng mga gals naman ;)

gulo ng mundo no? ah basta, merong nakakabilib kung bagong kilala mo pa lang pero pagtagal puro hangin lang pala kaya ... basahin muna ang book bago husgahan kung karapat-dapat ngang "behalten" o ibenta na lang sa ebay, labo ba? heheh

ralphT said...

kasi dun magbbase kung papaano nila ikaw ittrato. hehe

Anonymous said...

Most people I meet like me at the first impression and love me after..hehe. LOL. I guess being transparent as a person is key to being liked :)

rHo said...

ako rin sabi nila mataray daw ako kasi nga gaya mo... tahimik lang ako! syempre, db pag una nag-oobserve muna tayo?! e may ibang tao na di nila maintindihan yun! basta, ang importante naman e yung pagtagal ng panahon...

Richard said...

Cold and serious.

As one of Sofia's friend's said to me, "I am glad you ar enot my dad, becaus eI would be terrified of you."

tin-tin said...

sidney: you're right. it is better that way :)

neneng: parehas tayo! scorpion nga! hahaha. pero bket ako iju-judge, di naman ako book. ay! si joey marquez pala yun! hehehe ;p

ralph: yup. pero along the way, nagiging iba na din treatment nila sayo based on kung gusto ka nila o hindi :)

tin-tin said...

bw: really? wow ha! so that means you're really lovable. hehehe

rho: oo nga. tapos syempre nahihiya ka pa sa una diba? labo nila. hahaha

richard: what?!?! why? hehe. my impression of you is that you're friendly, that's why i'm really shocked to learn that some are terrified of you :)

Tani said...

Inconsistent ako. Minsan yun mga akala ko suplada, turns out mabait pala or yun mga akala ko mabait, salbahe pala. Minsan naman tama ako like yun mga feeling ko initially hindi kami magk-click, hindi ko talaga makakasundo in the long run. Since I know how inconsistent my first impressions are, I reserve my opinions for later. I always take my time getting to know people.

vina said...

hands down, majority think i'm a snob. but it's because i really put up a facade. i don't easily warm up to people, and i can be a bit choosy too.

but when you do get to know me...or, on the other hand, when i do let you get to know me, you'll wish you never knew me, haha!

haaaay...lukaret.

tin-tin said...

tani: ako, most of the time, those i see na antipatika at first would turn out to be my greatest friends in the long run :)

vina: hahaha. lukaret ka tlga! hehehe. basta alam ko lang nabili mo na xmas gift mo saken. hahaha

Anonymous said...

On a normal day, I give out great first impressions. I can make friends easily... I dunno how or why. hehe... But the trick is keeping those friendships. I'm pretty bad with that. I'm not hostile or anything, I just find it hard to keep close relationships with a lot of people. I guess those that stick with me through my foul moods are the ones closest to me. I guess the whole being silent thing is a sign of unapproachability or something. Most people get past that eventually, as you experienced. hehe :)

Anonymous said...

First impressions make a difference when you are trying to impress someone para siyempre you can catch there attention di ba? So best when applying for a job or trying to catch the right person, make a good/great impression.

Have you watched What not to wear?

Ako, medyo suplada, aloof ang impression sa akin but I'm friendly naman when you get to know me.

Anonymous said...

firs impression of people on me is that i am beautiful.





and that stays.

Anonymous said...

Hindi ko lang alam kung ano yung first impression nila sakin, kasi, but they finds me jolly, and cheerful person. Hindi ko lang alam sa iba. I don't really care what other people might think about me. basta, maganda ang pakikitungo ko sa kanila, and wala akong ginagawang masama, ok na sakin yun. Im glad na discover nila kung sino ka talga. :)

Anonymous said...

Hindi ko lang alam kung ano yung first impression nila sakin, kasi, but they FounD me jolly, and cheerful person. Hindi ko lang alam sa iba. I don't really care what other people might think about me. basta, maganda ang pakikitungo ko sa kanila, and wala akong ginagawang masama, ok na sakin yun. Im glad na discover nila kung sino ka talga. :)

Ay nadoble, paki delete nalang po yung nauna. sensya na po.

TK said...

econsoc? LB?

tin-tin said...

alternati: really? you make friends easily? wow! sorry ha. but my impression of you is you're a snob or someone that is hard to know. hehehe.

leah: i haven't seen that movie yet. yup, you should make a good first impression if you're trying to impress someone. and that's my problem. mukhang di sila naiimpress. hehe

Toe said...

I'm like Ade and Manilenya... so sometimes, I tell people (so that they won't take advantage especially when they think I'm nice)... "Mukha lang akong mabait... pero hinde! Hinde! Hinde!" :)

Sidney said...

You got a hug from the comment whore! :-)

tin-tin said...

bananas: then first impression with you lasts. hehehe. eh beautiful ka naman kse talaga diba?

tin: lagi ka siguro nakasmile. yun ang weird! lagi akong naka-smile yet they thought i'm mataray. haaay...

tk: yup. yun diba org ng tita nila sage? :)

tin-tin said...

toe: hahaha. pero madalas yun ang mababait. yung nagsasabing hindi sila mabait :)

sidney: thanks sidney! i wonder who will win the contest :)

Anonymous said...

2nd time here, :P who ask me to come here?? for sure the QC pimped me here

cruise said...

hindi ko naman naisip na mataray ka, ang ganda mo nga sa profile pic. nakangiti :)

pero nangyayari talaga yun, minsan di ka magugustuhan sa umpisa, pero kung magkaroon ka ng chance na makilala ka nila yun maiibigan ka na nila.

iskoo said...

ako rin minsan makita ko pa lang ang tao parang ayaw ko sa kanya, pero kapag binigyan ko ng time na makilala yun possible na magustuhan or maalis yung ilang sa kanya.

you look very fine young lady, i'm sure kapag nakilala ng ay magugustuhan ka ;)

RennyBA said...

Try to be yourself from the very beginning and not be to worried (I know it's hard yes!). Because then you show who you really are - a really nice person - when people get to know you - less tense and relaxed.

BTW!!! I got my postcard today!!! How sweet of you to show me your home town. Belated or not, that was the nicest birthday card I've got this year:-)

TK said...

nah. wala atang org yon. cinareer ang BF. I just got season 2 of Prison break. Mukhang hindi nanaman ako papansinin ng asawa ko for the next few days.

tin-tin said...

vince: you came from the queerchef?!?! oh no! i have to visit the comment whore to win. hahaha :)

cruise: yun nga di ko maintindihan! bket naiisip nilang mataray ako eh lagi naman akong nakasmile :(

iskoo: meron kse talagang mga tao na unang tingin mo pa lang parang ayaw mo na agad. pero yun pala in the long run, magugustuhan mo. isama nyo na kse ako sa hiking nyo para makilala nyo na ako. hahaah

tin-tin said...

renny: yup, you're right. it's hard to be yourself at first especially when ou're still shy. hehehe. you received the postcard already? sorry coz you received it after a month. hehe

tk: aah.. kala ko econsoc din siya. para kseng i don't know her. you already have season 2?! diba season2 just started in the states? try to watch it so you'll get hooked na rin. hehehe

kyels said...

First impression never lasts naman, that's what I think.

My first impression to others would always be a snob, too composed, serious and silent. But a lot of people assume that I'm a snob 'cause I don't smile. I remember once in school when I was doing college, one girl spreaded bad gossips about my being a big snob. And the fact is that, I was not friends with her and have never spoken to her at all ... Then I thought to myself, bakit? Haha.

Bad noh?

But via your picture I can see that you're a nice person Ate.

(:

TK said...

disappointed lang ako sa prison break kasi he was in cahoots with a child predator/molester, mafiaboss, certifiable psychopath. I can't sympathize with those guilty characters who will also break out of prison because he had to save his innocent brother. anyway, re: Ninang nila (yung recent LB alumna) isang friend nya, si "Meridor", described econsoc sa blog nya in a flattering manner, parang yung pagkakadescribe mo. sounds like fun, yung econsoc nyo.

Anonymous said...

Hi =)
"Charles pimped me here" hohOXD
Nice blog :)

I don't know what a matanay (or someting), but I guess it's not good.. Or am I wrong?

Well.. People sometimes SUCK, stupid stuck up ppl hohoXD

manilenya said...

nyahahahaha! korek tin-tin
talino mo talaga lol!

tin-tin said...

kyels: you're a snob? some see me as that also. there are really some people who have nothing to do but say negative about others

tk: ang ayoko lang talaga ay yung pedophile. bad kse sya talaga. meridor? di ko ata kialal yun. hehe. baka sobrang bata kaya di ko naabutan na batch. wala na kse akong kilala sa mga resident members. i don't visit elbi na kse. pero masaya ang econsoc. i love them :)

angelika: i also hate stuck up people

tin-tin said...

manilenya: miss gorgeous ka nga diba? :)

Abaniko said...

With your captivating smile, how can they possibly think you're mataray?

Bryan Anthony the First said...

they think i'm a socialite.
i'm not, though i dont mind being one

meanwhile, my first impression of tin: church choir

:-)

tin-tin said...

abaniko: honestly, i don't know. nagugulat din ako kse lagi naman akong naka-smile

bryan: i also thought you're a socialite. hehe. me? a church choir? hahaha. no way! :)

zingtrial said...

tin-tin with me it is what you see is what you get.but I do agree that a lot of people my friend see it that way first impression means all.
Wish you well

kyels said...

Yeah, that's true. Well, we can shut jars and bottles but we can never shut the human mouth tight. That's what they say, noh?

Ingat!

(:

Estupidormitorian Neil said...

I don't care about their first impressions on me. The hell they drool. It just fascinates me whenever they say I'm suplado and intimidating and can swallow them whole with my twang. Hahaha. ^_^

Green Earth said...

You have lasting qualities, that is more important than making an immediate impact on people you met.

As you say you are reserved at first so people take time to discover the real you.

Reserve is a wise quality. It allows you time to assess your situation before putting yourself out there.

Anonymous said...

hahaha! i can relate, ganyan din ang first impression sa akin. im comfortable with it, it keeps away the bad people :)

Claire said...

I have no idea what people's first impressions of me are. I hope it's not so bad! First impressions can be difficult though, so often they are wrong!

Anonymous said...

I know what you mean. People who meet me get the impression that I think I know everything, which totally isn't how I feel!

They realize after a while I just talk a lot when I'm nervous.

chase said...

For me I dont believe in first impressions is last since I am always surprise when I got to know the person trully and that he or she is not what I expected to be

ghee said...

oo,impression nila yun,wala akong magagawa,pero nagbago agad yun pag nakasama at nakausap na ako :)

Crypt of Storms said...

hello tin,

long time no hear. I struggled with putting back my site -- and changing links.

first impressions? I'm not really particular. No impressions ever lasts no me -- not the first and not the last. life is full of changing chaos. It will be so hard to be judged and to judge someone based on impressions. The only impression I have on life is -- confusion. different races, different beliefs, contrasting principles -- whew! the reasons why I never take into account first(or last) impressions. :-)

SC

Anonymous said...

ako first impression nila sa akin, mataray din or suplada kase i dont smile when i see strangers around me, i just totally ignore them .. hahahah ..